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I feel very weak. I've lost my motivation and my strength of will. What word of advice can you offer or is there a dua I should read?

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Question

After having several miscarriages, I left my job and now I'm at home. Nothing stimulates me anymore, I got into the university course I thought I'd never get into but I didn't even get excited, getting a new job isn't a big deal for me, I'll lie my way through the interview but I won't make an effort to succeed highly. I've lost my motivation and my strength of will. I've been on a emotional rollercoaster since then.Getting up to get exercise or doing housework - it all seems like a chore. I don't want to live sometimes but I continue to pray my salaat. What word of advice can you offer or is there a dua I should read?

Answer

We are very sorry to hear of your plight. Allah Ta'ala knows the wisdom of his doings, perhaps the children that were to be born could have been a calamity on you. This was from Allah and we should clearly understand that we cannot escape the decision of Allah with regard to any matter in our lives.

Whatever Allah Ta'ala decides will happen. We have to have faith in Tafweez (resigning oneself to the decision of Allah) and Taqdeer (predestination). This is the solution to all our anxieities, depression and worries. As the servants and slaves of Allah, we should understand that our Master will grant to us only that which is good for us. Our duty and endeavour is that we supplicate and ask Allah, then make the correct Tadbeer (effort) and thereafter leave the final decision to Allah Ta'ala. This brings peace, contentment and happiness into one's heart. Our advise is that you should condition your heart and generate at least to some extent the favour of Imaan. Conduct Ta'leem, i.e. read some portion from the famous book of 'Fadhaail-e-Aamaal' by Shaykh Zakariyya (RA) everyday and also search for a Shaykh (spiritual mentor and guide) with whom one can easily relate and attempt to acquire from him the love of Allah, the constant consciousness of His presence and the reality of Tawakkul.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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