Ettiquettes of Itimate Relationship?

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What are the Ettiquettes of intimate Relationship with Wife. And second question is about, when husband call his wife to bed and she refuse to without any legitimate is cursed. Is this is same for a man when he refuse to fulfil his wife desire when she is in need? JazzakAllah

Mufti Ebrahim Desai · Accepted Answer

Du'aa before commencing intercourse:
Allaahumma Jannibnaa minas shaytaani wa jannibihs shaytaana maa razaqtanaa (Trans: O Allah! Save us from Shaytaan and prevent Shaytaan from that which you have gran child)

Du'aa to be recited at the time of ejaculation (in the mind, not verbally): Allaahumma Laa Taj-al lish-shaytaana fee maa razaqtanaa
(Trans: O Allah, do not grant Shaytaan any share from that which you have granted me)

* Make intention to maintain chastity
* Perform Wudhu, use the Miswaak, apply Itr, etc.
* Foreplay. The partners should arouse each another sufficiently before indulging in the actual act.
* Recite the respective Du'aas in their respective times
* After play. After ejaculation the male should not withdraw until his wife achieves climax and satisfaction.
* Attain purity by having a bath as soon as possible after intercourse. If one wishes to sleep then, he/she should at least wash his/her private part and make Wudhu before sleeping.
* Complete nudity should be avoided. Both partners should undress under a sheet and at least keep that over them throughout the intercourse. * One should refrain from facing the Qiblah during intercourse. * Intercourse should be refrained from: a) On a full stomach, b) Whilst curbing the urge to urinate or defecate, and c) When one of the partners is ill, especially during fever and when the eyes are sore.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai
FATWA DEPT.

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