What does islam say about breaking of Family ties

The order of maintaining family ties is replete in the Qur'aan and Ahaadith. Hadhrat Aaisha (Radhiallaahu Anha) narrates that the Rasool of Allah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, '(the personification of) Family ties are attached to the throne saying, 'he who joins me, Allah joins him and he who breaks with me Allah Ta'ala breaks away from him.' (Bukhari and Muslim)

Jaabir ibn Muntam (Radhiallaahu Anhu) narrates that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, 'The person who breaks family ties will not enter Jannah.' (Bukhari and Muslim)

Asmaa bin Abu Bakr (Radhiallaahu Anha) narrates that her mother came to her at that time when she (her mother) was an idol worshipper. Asmaa (Radhiallaahu Anha) enquired from Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) whether she must be good to her or not. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) replied to be good to her.

Ibn Umar (Radhiallaahu Anhu) narrates that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, 'The joiner of family ties is not he who (merely) reciprocates, but the joiner of family ties is he who joins ties when one breaks ties with him.'

Hadhrat Abu Bakr (Radhiallaahu Anhu) and Hadhrat Mistah were close family members Hadhrat Abu Bakr (Radhiallaahu Anhu) used to render financial assistance to Hadhrat Mistah. When Hadhrat Mistah (Radhiallaahu Anhu) got involved in the scandal against Hadhrat Aaisha (Radhiallaahu Anha), Hadhrat Abu Bakr, being the father of our mother Aaisha was natural upset and vowed to discontinue his assistance to Mistah. Allah Ta'ala advised him, 'Don't you love to be forgiven?' Upon that, Abu Bakr (Radhiallaahu Anhu) replied, 'Yes! I love to be forgiven.' He forgave Mistah and resumed his financial assistance to him.

In order to maintain family ties, forgiveness and tolerance are essential factors.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai
FATWA DEPT.