I'm a newly converted muslim I have two children and the man I interested in to get married too is a widower and he has a daughter of three as well muslim - how do I approach him

Before approaching the person in reference, we advise you make Istikhaara (seek Divine guidance) as well s make Mashwarah (consult) with reliable people about the person and your intention. If the guidance in the Istikhaara and Mashwara are positive, then you may appoint a reliable person as your representative to first enquire from the person if he will be interested in marrying or not. If he is interested, then he may suggest you to him.

While it is permissible for a female to make a proposal, we advise the above procedure of first enquiring and then making an independent suggestion by your representative due to the misconception that females cannot make a proposal and is regarded to be incorrect, etc. Should you decide on that course of action, it is permissible but may not be conducive to your course due to the misconception of our people.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai