Is it permissable for a man not to get married?
Question
I am a very shy person, i feel that i would not be able to keep my wife happy both physically and on a day to day basis by making conversation etc.. so much so that she could become bored and forced to go with another man. There is no danger of yielding to my desires as my nafs is well controlled. i feel i will be able to serve Allah (swt) better on my own. In such a condition is it possible for me not to get married?
Answer
It is permissible for a male not to marry if he can contain his desires without committing any immoral act. However, Nikah is a great sunnah of our prophet (S.A.W). You stated that you are shy and fear not being able to fulfil your wife's rights. Being shy is not a valid excuse for not marrying as Rasulullah (SAW) was more shy than a most modest woman. The fear that you have of not fulfilling your wife's rights is a natural one which will be overcome after marriage.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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