Is it shameful for an unmarried muslim teenager to be curious about Islam's view on sex ?
Question
As salaamu Alaikum Respected Mufti Taking into consideration that sex is a fact of life , is it shameful for an unmarried Muslim teenager to be curious about it and Islam's view on it? Isn't it better to eduacate Muslim teenagers in the Islamic viewpoint rather than they receiving distorted and unislamic infomation from their friends.Isn't it the duty of the parent to impart such knowledge? Jazakallh for the Masha Allah site Was salaam
Answer
It will be the duty of a Muslim parent to educate his/her teenage child on matters pertaining to the child's deen and not necessarily the intimate things of life. Whe the parent notices that the young teenager is at the age of maturity then with tact and wisdom the parent should explain the Islaamic injunctions and laws which will now apply to the child. For example, the teenager should be made to understand that the removing of pubic hairs is necessary and that after a nocturnal emmission, a compulsory bath will have to be taken and the different rulings applying to young girls who will be experiencing menstruation.
This will be sufficient for a parent to explain to his/her teenage child. More than this is not totally necessary unless the child has to ask or the parent feels a need to explain such intimate things. Also, one should note that between parent and child there should exist a certain degree of shame and modesty. This is desired between a parent and child relationship or else there will be no sense of respect for the parent which could be detrimental for the nurturing and imbibement of good qualities and etiquette in the child. If modesty and shame is prevlent in the parent/shild relationship then such an explicit discussion will be quiet strange and uncomfortable.
As time goes on in a teenager's life, gradually he/she will learn the facts of life as this system prevailed from before till now.
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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