Marital problems and custody of children
Question
I am seriously contemplating a divorce as I am no longer interested in the marriage, it has had a major share of issues and I have also been advised to let go. The worst part is that everybody from my family knows my husband to be a liar and although he is an Aalim, the behavior which he has shown to a prominent Aalim is disgusting. The only problem that I have is my 2 kids. I will look after them, but I'm worried about their future. Please advise as its hard for children that have a broken home.
Answer
After divorce, the wife gets custody of the children. In the case of a girl, the mother gets custody till the age of nine. In the case of a boy, the mother gets custody till the age of seven. Thereafter, the father will get the custody of the children.
Refer to a senior Aalim who handles marital problems for advice regarding your condition.
References (Arabic / Urdu sources)
( والحاضنة ) أما أو غيرها ( أحق به ) أي بالغلام حتى يستغني عن النساء وقدر بسبع وبه يفتى لأنه الغالب ... ( والأم والجدة ) لأم أو لأب ( أحق بها ) بالصغيرة ( حتى تحيض ) أي تبلغ في ظاهر الرواية ... ( وغيرهما أحق بها حتى تشتهي ) وقدر بتسع وبه يفتى ... ( وعن محمد أن الحكم في الأم والجدة كذلك ) وبه يفتى لكثرة الفساد زيلعي
و قال في الشامية : قوله ( في ظاهر الرواية ) مقابله رواية محمد الآتية, قوله ( وبه يفتى ) قال في البحر بعد نقل تصحيحه ولحاصل أن الفتوى على خلاف ظاهر الرواية ( رد المحتار 3/566)
- Answered by
- Mufti Zakaria Makada
- Checked & approved by
- Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
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