Ibn MasoodDarul Ifta Ibn Masood

Disobedient Children

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Family Matters

Question

Please advise how we should approach our 19 year old daughter who is displaying serious acts of disobedience towards us, such as verbal and physical abuse, threatens to move out of the house and refuses to acknowledge or reform her wrongdoing?

Answer

We humbly advise that as parents, you should all continue making Dua for your daughter, and try to advise her and correct her in a polite manner. If this does not work, then you should seek help from a friend or relative who your daughter looks up to, and try for that person to speak to your daughter. Do not assist her financially to the extent that she becomes independent. Do not pay for her tertiary secular education. Start Ta’leem in the home on a daily basis. Do not tolerate her verbal and physical abuse. Always adopt patience, and constantly remain in the remembrance of Allah.

Answered by
Mufti Muhammad Isa Ali
Checked & approved by
Mufti Yacoob Vally Saheb
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