I am going to be married to a muslim man who is already married. What i want to know and shy to ask him, is ,if three of us will get involved. What i mean by that is, can he..
Question
I am going to be married to a muslim man who is already married. What i want to know and shy to ask him, is ,if three of us will get involved. What i mean by that is, can he ask us both to be in bed with him. Is that one of his rights?
Answer
In the name of Allāh, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalāmu ῾alaykum wa Rahmatullāhi Wabarakātuh
The laws of Satar (exposing of private parts) are relaxed between a man and his wives however, such laws are not relaxed between the co-wives. Hence, it is not permissible to have intercourse with more than one wife at the same time, due to the satar being exposed between the co-wives. Furthermore, the husband cannot argue this as one of his right’s nor do the wives’ need to obey him on this aspect.
(Raddul Muhtaar, Vol.6, Pg.371, HM Saeed)[1]
(Bahishti Zewar, Pg.347, Zam Zam)
(Ftaawa Mahmudiyyah, Vol.19, Pg.239, Faruqiyah)
(Al Hindiyyah, Vol.5, Pg.327, Rasheediyah)
And Allāh Ta῾āla Knows Best
Wassalāmu ῾alaykum
Ml. Ebrahim Desai,
Student Dārul Iftā
Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Dārul Iftā
References (Arabic / Urdu sources)
[1] وَتَنْظُرُ الْمَرْأَةُ الْمُسْلِمَةُ مِنْ الْمَرْأَةِ كَالرَّجُلِ مِنْ الرَّجُلِ ) وَقِيلَ كَالرَّجُلِ لِمَحْرَمِهِ وَالْأَوَّلُ أَصَحُّ سِرَاجٌ ( وَكَذَا ) تَنْظُرُ الْمَرْأَةُ ( مِنْ الرَّجُلِ ) كَنَظَرِ الرَّجُلِ لِلرَّجُلِ ( إنْ أَمِنَتْ شَهْوَتَهَا ) فَلَوْ لَمْ تَأْمَنْ أَوْ خَافَتْ أَوْ شَكَّتْ حَرُمَ اسْتِحْسَانًا كَالرَّجُلِ هُوَ الصَّحِيحُ فِي الْفَصْلَيْنِ تَتَارْخَانِيَّةٌ مَعْزِيًّا لِلْمُضْمَرَاتِ
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- Ml. Ebrahim Desai
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- Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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