If wife does not want to have sex (because she feels pain in her private parts and also she is tired looking-after her small baby), then is it permissable for the husband to masturbate?
Question
If wife does not want to have sex (because she feels pain in her private parts and also she is tired looking-after her small baby), then is it permissable for the husband to masturbate?
Answer
In the name of Allāh, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalāmu ῾alaykum wa Rahmatullāhi Wabarakātuh
In principle, it is not permissible for a man or woman to masturbate/self stimulate themselves. This is substantiated by clear juristic texts cited in various books. However, if a husband desires his wife to masturbate him, it will be permissible despite it still being regarded as an undesirable act.
(Fatāwa Mahmudiyyah, Vol. 18, Pg. 636/7, Fāruqiyyah)
(Hindiyyah, Vol. 2, Pg. 170, Rashīdiyyah)[1]
(Raddul Muhtār, Vol. 4, Pg. 27, HM Saeed)[2]
(Raddul Muhtār, Vol. 2, Pg. 399, HM Saeed)
And Allāh Ta῾āla Knows Best
Wassalāmu ῾alaykum
Ml. Ebrahim Desai,
Student Dārul Iftā
Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Dārul Iftā
References (Arabic / Urdu sources)
[1] الِاسْتِمْنَاءُ حَرَامٌ وَفِيهِ التَّعْزِيرُ وَلَوْ مَكَّنَ امْرَأَتَهُ أو أَمَتَهُ من الْعَبَثِ بِذَكَرِهِ فَأَنْزَلَ فإنه مَكْرُوهٌ وَلَا شَيْءَ عليه (فصل في التعزير,170\2 ,هندية)
[2] فَرْعٌ ] فِي الْجَوْهَرَةِ : الِاسْتِمْنَاءُ حَرَامٌ ، وَفِيهِ التَّعْزِيرُ .وَلَوْ مَكَّنَ امْرَأَتَهُ أَوْ أَمَتَهُ مِنْ الْعَبَثِ بِذَكَرِهِ فَأَنْزَلَ كُرِهَ وَلَا شَيْءَ عَلَيْهِ
(الشَّرْحُ) ( قَوْلُهُ الِاسْتِمْنَاءُ حَرَامٌ ) أَيْ بِالْكَفِّ إذَا كَانَ لِاسْتِجْلَابِ الشَّهْوَةِ ، أَمَّا إذَا غَلَبَتْهُ الشَّهْوَةُ وَلَيْسَ لَهُ زَوْجَةٌ وَلَا أَمَةٌ فَفَعَلَ ذَلِكَ لِتَسْكِينِهَا فَالرَّجَاءُ أَنَّهُ لَا وَبَالَ عَلَيْهِ كَمَا قَالَهُ أَبُو اللَّيْثِ ، وَيَجِبُ لَوْ خَافَ الزِّنَا ( قَوْلُهُ كُرِهَ ) الظَّاهِرُ أَنَّهَا كَرَاهَةُ تَنْزِيهٍ ؛ لِأَنَّ ذَلِكَ بِمَنْزِلَةِ مَا لَوْ أَنْزَلَ بِتَفْخِيذٍ أَوْ تَبْطِينٍ تَأَمَّلْ وَقَدَّمْنَا عَنْ الْمِعْرَاجِ فِي بَابِ مُفْسِدَاتِ الصَّوْمِ : يَجُوزُ أَنْ يَسْتَمْنِيَ بِيَدِ زَوْجَتِهِ أَوْ خَادِمَتِهِ ، وَانْظُرْ مَا كَتَبْنَاهُ هُنَاكَ ( قَوْلُهُ وَلَا شَيْءَ عَلَيْهِ ) أَيْ مِنْ حَدٍّ وَتَعْزِيرٍ ، وَكَذَا مِنْ إثْمٍ عَلَى مَا قُلْنَاهُ (رد المحتار,مطلب في حكم اللواطة, 27\4)
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